Did you know that your confidence level in its purest form is quite elusive, exclusive and very highly sought after
Well, because pure confidence allows people to become the best in the World at what they do.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly comments that, “all of our clients have Confidence regardless of age. You are confident when people understand you, you are being true to yourself and approach all tasks in the way that suits you.”
Confidence building exercises are an especially critical component of success for all kinds of high level sports people that we work with from Olympians, Paralympians, Special Olympians, World Champion Gold Medalists, European Champions and Grand Prix Winners etc.
For this reason, confidence fitness is as important as training, structure, conditioning and nutrition.
Dr. Naoisé and I experience how confidence is crucial to the success of all sports people. For different reasons professional football players, professional golfers, professional tennis players and professional swimmers come under more pressure.
You could say that soccer, golf, tennis and swimming is psychology played out on pitches, lawns and pools.
It is fascinating how we are able to precisely predict a professional sports persons form for each competition based on our methods and confidence code.
Where a confidence gap exists the most important confidence boosters are demonstrating how you learn best in the way that you process information differently from your teammates and coaches.
When we flick the switch players remember strategy effortlessly and have the keys that they particularly need for individual plus team success and performance.
You see, different personalities develop confidence in different ways. Purple Success is about knowing these different keys for different people. Plus, creating balance for each individual, the group and the whole environment.
It is always a fascination to us that in education people expect 30 people to be thrown together in the same room. No wonder the system does not work. Sport is no different.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly, Expression Developist™ & Marie O’Riordan, Success Developist™ Mentors/Psychological Profilers to Fortune 500 Companies, Gold World Championships Winning Athletes, Royal Family’s Investments etc. can be contacted via The Forever Method® Success@TheForeverMethod.com
It would be so easy if all you had to do was talk about your story or be academically brilliant to change not only how others achieve but perceptions of what they can achieve.
I have always wondered why ideas of what dyslexics can do have not changed with all the successful famous people from Jamie Oliver to Albert Einstein. If all these people had done so much before me, why was I told at 17 I could not do any of it and that going to college was and I quote, "above my status".
If only what you had done could change the perceptions of how others approach the next generation.
One of the biggest frustrations for me was it never mattered what I had done before - I was always judged at the next stage of education. So even though I got over 500 points in my leaving cert and was in the 25% of the country the year I sat it when I got to college, lecturers refused to help me with notes because "I shouldn't be there and sure what was I going to do in the future anyway" and when I got a 1st for my degree and went on to my PhD I was given a lecture on the pyramids of education in my viva as to why I didn't deserve to be there at this level. It never mattered at any level what I had done before or what others had done before me. There was still a concrete idea that I couldn't be academically successful.
But almost 6 years on since I started my own education projects to develop methods to change education I now understand why I didn't want to be a motivational speaker. Why my approach has all been about action.
In order to really change the patterns of generations and the educational blueprint that has built up over decades you have to create an experience for people. They have to feel and know the difference.
In order to be truly successful people have to experience what it is like to learn differently - they have to understand how they absorb information, how they process it and how they can be truly successful.
Yes, the methods seem very simple to me and are easily applied to all as they are universal but the crux is that they have to be applied to real people. Then for every person I help to see differently and every family that is successful or every business they will approach the next set of people in a new light. I was told recently that "you have made me look differently at my employees and I can see how they learn now" and this was from working with someone's child. But by understanding their own child in a different way now from experience they see their own employees differently. I have always thought that business had the ability to drive education and that is why I work across both sectors now.
When I set out almost 6 years ago I had three objectives:
1: Literacy and intellegnce not in the same sentence.
2: Make school more enjoyable for everyone.
3: Make companies understand how everyone works differently and stop focusing on the difference.
I guess I have added a 4th one - to make everyone successful.
Almost 6 years on I have a set of methods to apply universally to the whole world to do just this - but it'll never be about me just talking about them. It's all about making as many people as possible experience something new that will gradually change the world over time. You can never go back once you have looked at people in a new light. You can never expect a dyslexic to be defined by their reading age once you have seen them get 9 out of 10 in the spelling test or 44 out 45 in the maths test. You now expect them to achieve academically and in life.
I have never been one for talking about what I'm going to do - I always just did it and now I understand why that action changes the blueprint for the future.
I'm an expression developist now because I express myself often but I give this ability to others too.
Dr. Naoisé O'Reilly.
From my experiences as a University Level student myself, my role as mentor and my various positions within a 3rd level University including MBA Faculty Manager, Acting Registrar and Masters Coordinator I know what it takes to get through college!
Surprisingly the endless swatting of the course material is a very small part of the road to success...
This is why I keep our students doing a "play" program over the summer. There is no point undoing all the progress they have made in a few sort weeks of holidays!
Divergent is making waves in popular culture with the release of part one of the hollywood movie trilogy inspired by Veronica Roth’s books. This follows the mammoth success of The Hunger Games starring academy award winning actress Jennifer Lawrence.
There are two main themes in Divergent. The first is that it is bad and possibly even fatal to fit into more than one aptitude. The second major theme relates to growing away from your parents.
In Divergent’s futuristic world it is seen as threatening to fit into more than one faction made up of five temperaments which are selfless, peaceful, honest, brave and knowledgeable. It is difficult to compare this directly to personality theory as it is generally regarded that there are in fact sixteen types of people in the real world.
However, this does compare to our four defined learning styles which are the ways that people take in information from the world. Our four categories of psychological profiling methods include auditory, visual, practical and kinesthetic.
All of the students we work with that do not fit in a box and struggle in school have what we call multiplicity. This means, like in Divergent, they have all four aptitudes. They are quite often overwhelmed by the amount of information they absorb from all environments. Multiplicity is what people commonly see as “clever” and “intelligent.” All of our ideas of cleverness and intelligence come from people who can absorb ideas quickly and have a multitude of interests. This is where we break away from the norm.
Multiplicity is drilled out of children in school by age fifteen. Only a very small percentage of the older students we meet have still retained their natural multiplicity. They are quite often seen as “freaks.” Some of them were very heavily medicated before working with us for just having too much energy or being too “distracted.”
In the film Divergent the main character takes an aptitude test at the age of sixteen. This is true to school life. There have been some pretty hilarious conversations within our team about what they were told at sixteen. The Senior D.N.A. Geneticist on our team was told at sixteen that he would never be any good a science.
This brings us to the second main theme in the film and the challenges the main character experiences when she realizes that she cannot follow her family. She does not easily fit into their faction and this is a real life experience for many of our students. Children really struggle when in their teenage years they appear to have nothing in common with their family and parents don’t understand them.
In many cases the students we work with have just simply skipped a generation in aptitudes and personality. It is quite often revealed that they are much more like their grandparents and great grandparents. A mother or father can feel that their children have nothing in common with them and this can also be the case in partnerships where there are children from different relationships.
We work with adult clients in the business world in their late thirties too who had struggled to find their path in life. Having attempted the career path of their parents they have not fitted in. They quite often do not feel any real support or understanding from home about who they really are.
The good news is that it is perfectly alright to be divergent and movies like this can only help to shine a positive light on psychological profiling and our ongoing research in the area of personality types and achievement. Anyone who works in personality theory does so because they have an overwhelming desire to help people find out who they really are and wish to help them to succeed.
Dr. Naoisé O'Reilly & Marie O'Riordan
You may be under the impression that there is not a lot in common between business people and students. So, compare a 10-year-old dyslexic student who has specific failing points in school to a company about to close. One of the first things they have in common is that they feel blocked in and the world is telling them everything they are doing wrong. They both have lousy reports, feel like they are running out of time and they appear to be putting in huge amounts of effort for very little results.
Now compare a 13-year-old student enjoying new life experiences and demands to a business also having a sudden growth spurt. The teenager is suddenly part of a much bigger organization of sorts. They have many skills to learn and new teachers to understand. We can easily compare this to a business that has abruptly grown with new employees, new products, new research and a lot more people to manage.
Also compare a 15-year-old exam student who has done great and is heading for the final stages of school to a multi million dollar project that needs a very targeted strategy. You are swiftly deciding what skills you need for your career, which subjects you are going to take forward and how you are going to get there. With a multi million dollar project you are effectively making all of the same decisions.
You could start to compare a 17-year-old exam student’s overwhelming workload and study schedule to a company that dramatically finds itself in the media spotlight in a positive manner. Both can quite easily start to hyper ventilate and panic. We have worked with companies whose telephone lines melted down under the strain and staff were not able to get an available line out of their offices for over a week.
At this stage we wish to point out why life coaching is a waste of time. Life coaching does not work, cram schools are a waste of money and 99% of private tuition is a very short term solution. Continuity is vital to sustainability and you must pick up the juggling balls and be prepared to help directly long term when needed, not just at the start.
We profile the elements that matter and create methods around them. Like how people tick, what they need now and how they need it. But what is more vital is the strategy that goes with it. We work with a cross section of people aged from 18 month old toddlers to 72 year olds. They are from hundreds of different backgrounds worldwide, stages in life and business varieties.
We are strange in that we take on clients for life. It is very rewarding to start working with people when they are 10 and now I am introducing them to their first real world business internships at 16. Our stories are no less dramatic in the business world. When we have gone in to restructure companies that were about to close the doors we still support their growth several years later. They got out of the red but went through growing pains and we are still needed as a safety net.
Many people say things like “with success comes new challenges and with age comes new issues” but life coaching, cram schools and most private tuition is just short term crisis management that never sticks around long enough to help long term.
Much of our success is down to developing methods that allow us to profile people. Take the 5-year-old with language development issues, the 15-year-old with asperger’s syndrome and the 45-year-old’s business and family issues. In all of these types of cases we get sonic speed results because we focus on what they need right there and then. There’s a development path so it is a combination of understanding timescales and our Purple Success™ methods.
Here is a limitation that we have found with traditional education system teachers around the world. All of our team have been on specific career paths so they can actually write a letter of introduction for a job or a course for a student but most teachers have never done this and most career guidance teachers do not actually have business careers. Also, schools do not teach goals and goal setting and you are not going anywhere unless you have a goal to achieve. The real golden nugget is to continually set new goals.
Dr. Naoisé O'Reilly & Marie O'Riordan