INFJ’s feel very misunderstood growing up. In fact, it is as if you don’t grow out of that teenage phase. The language patterns of INFJ children tend to stand out from the crowd. They talk about goals. They use phrases such as legacy and infinity. It’s a little like listening to a buzz light year.
They are often mistrusted by their peers due to their vast insights and how much they can see is going on with the people around them. They can be seen to be too serious, intense and wishing to get to close to people. Others around them lack the adult maturity to want to know people as deeply. Often the actions of INFJ people are misinterpreted as more than friendship.
INFJ’s want to do more in the world. They find it very hard to pick a job. They just know they want to make changes wherever they go. I’m reminded of the career advice in Harry Potter’s Hogwarts. Hermione can’t find a “job” she wants amongst all the leaflets. She wants to do more such as taking her elf welfare rights further.
All this not fitting in leaves INFJ’s open to being bullied, not only by their peers, but by those adults that should be helping them to develop. To be bullied is a common theme amongst INFJ’s.
I think many find solace in some books. I found this hard personally because I didn’t read at an early age and couldn’t read books to match my age.
Many INFJ’s have been leant a book by someone and that turns out to be a profound turning point or they finally meet someone else such as themselves. It’s like a massive eureka moment.
It’s always been a big question as to why those who should be helping us to grow end up thwarting us instead. I thought first of all that this was just my misfortune as a result of my dyslexia. It was often felt that I was trying to do more and go beyond where I should be. For example, my memory of my first day of secondary school was a public row in front of my whole English class with the remedial teacher as I refused to leave honours English for “veggie” English class. But by then I had decided I was going to university and honours English was a requirement.Personally, the two things I always gravitate back to are Fannie Flagg books and Harry Potter. Harry Potter is one of the few fictional stories that contains INFJ characters.
I guess it is odd for a 12-year-old to know what they want to do and to stand up for it? Or to know what the university requirements were, especially since I would be the first in my family to continue in education. Or maybe to feel that even though I had not read a book yet by myself that I didn’t feel that still nothing was beyond me?
I guess INFJ’s suffer from the idea that the pupil has grown bigger than the teacher. Hence, it is very important to me that you can never grow to “big” or too successful in all the people that we mentor.
Jealousy seems to be a feature that is directed towards INFJ people. This is very hard to comprehend as it is not an element that we ever posses ourselves. But all of the INFJ people that I know suffer from large quantities of jealousy and bullying from other people, especially earlier in life before they learn to pick their friends more carefully. We tend to be so accommodating to other people and have the ability to step into their shoes and show such empathy that we can be left feeling when we are younger that we are at fault. We learn to be more self-preserving as we grow older. It’s like we learn that we can’t fix or save everyone.
We have boundless energy which can either set people off seeming too intense and hyper. Where many others will walk across the room to find out what it is that is drawing them to you. Many of our clients talk about our energy. When other INFJ people find each other it tends to be a little like a honing beacon. We also seem to posses piercing eyes. Often blue in colour.
22 seems to be a very pivotal age for us. I’ve come to imagine it as not a butterfly but a rather energetic creature emerges in full to take on the world and make our unique impact.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly,
Myers-Briggs to Fit Our Expectations & Needs – Not Just Understanding Who You Are But What You Need to Succeed
The founder of personality understanding was Carl Jung who first wrote about his findings in 1921. However, his work had one serious limitation. As he was a trained psychologist he mainly had access to people that were perceived to have serious psychosis problems. His work was based on finding a new balance for these people rather than a balance for the everyday person who doesn’t find their way to a psychotherapist.
Isabel Myers took up the challenge in 1942 to help “ordinary, healthy, normal people understand that it is alright to be unique individuals.” She could see the implications in everyday life, careers and relationships with those around you. Her daughter, Isabel Briggs Myers, wrote in 1980 - “I hope parents, teachers, students, counsellors, clinicians, clergy - and all others who are concerned with the realization of human potential - may find a rationale for many of the personality differences they encounter in their work or must deal with in their private lives.”
Nowadays, the test is used by a vast array of big corporations to fit you into a box and try to predict how well you will do a particular job. This was not the purpose of the empowerment and awareness test. It was not to determine your path in life or what box you go into. In the same way Alfred Binet created the I.Q. Test to help see how to better accommodate students - not to determine their capabilities for life.
We have gone beyond the simple factors that people have obsessed over who you should be but rather than the factors that help people to be the most balanced form of themselves. Which, ironically, is what Jung was striving for when he first worked with his patients in the 1920‘s. This balanced form of yourself allows you to be successful at everything in record breaking times.
We firstly started off applying our new methods to students with learning difficulties - why are no two dyslexic children able to get the same results? Why does one find the whole school experience so difficult and not the other? Why are so many people of a particular personality type diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome? Why do some people with written expression issues bully others? Why do some students need all the steps explained while others find their own ways?
We now have a more extensive profiling method, Purple Profiling, that takes more factors into account including the ways in which we process information. Another area that Katherine Briggs was keen for people to have an understanding and realization of. We understand the developmental time scale and how generational factors affect long term patterns. We have ended up with a system that is like psychoanalysis and counselling on speed. The results are not only rapid, but more importantly, sustainable. They have been described as ‘flicking a switch.’ We are not changing people. I don’t need anyone to be less dyslexic or more sociable for success.
The methods have now been applied to all areas of life, business and sports as well as education. Across a span of ages, backgrounds, sports and industry sectors.
It has been so important to continue to build on the foundations of this work, especially as we have been continually written off by people in life. My own psychologist report at 16 told me that “it was beyond my status to go to college” because of my severe dyslexia. Interestingly, all of the people who have seriously added to this method, and not in a way to just be used by corporations to fit people into boxes, have themselves all been INFJ. The rarest MBTI personality type. It is as if in being so different from others that they have strove to add to the understanding of that difference in the world around them.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly,
February 3rd 2015.
(Extracts from Dr. O’Reilly In Conversation with Marie O’Riordan - November 14th 2014).
Opening with “My dream is to make the world a better place which means embracing academia and scientific research,” Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly outlined how she is doing just that.
“In 6 years spent in a vacuum quietly developing psychological success systems, I took the chalice of work by Carl Jung, Isabel Briggs Myers/Katharine Cook Briggs, David Keirsey and Maria Montessori, further developing it into the ground breaking system, Purple Success®, I have categorized people in new ways, not simply based on who they are and their temperaments. Jung and Myers/Briggs obsessed over who we are. I, on the other hand, obsess over who people need to be - the best of themselves for the betterment of all mankind - categorizing them based on how quickly they can obtain their desired results and the environment needed to achieve this.
“Surprisingly, Marie O’Riordan and I are only the 4th group to impact specific areas of psychology in a century which makes it very difficult to explain exactly what we do as we have rewritten a hundred years of psychology”, Dr. O’Reilly added.
“My aim when we started was to take literacy and intelligence out of the same sentence. You see, people can’t believe that, although I couldn’t stand up and read aloud to you, I have attained the academic results I have. This is why I call myself an Expression Developist™, having discovered a way to express myself so the world finally takes me seriously. Thankfully, Marie can read and talk for days!”
“I’m often asked how our work differs from that of other pioneers. Simply put, our methods produce results fast, we concentrate on each client’s individuality rather than them functioning as a cog in a system and we build up each person to work at higher levels than they imagined possible, usually independent of large organizations.”
“Our aim for our clients is ‘superhero’ levels of success, becoming top in their fields at rocket speed. We are totally inclusive, our clients ranging in age from babies to those in their 70s and we don’t care whether someone’s had several marriages or careers, or never been able to read, write or even talk. Our methods work with everyone.”
“When asked what I do, I worry my answer might sound portentous but, although I’m not one to dominate conversations, when I answer there’s always a genuine interest in finding out even more about psychology.”
“I have developed unique new profiling methods, applicable not just to personality types but also to differing learning styles, to understand how people process information from the world around them and how they need to think. These are distinct ways of viewing life events and timelines in order to break negative patterns, not just in their lifetime, but right across generational blueprints, which is another reason why this body of research is unparalleled.”
Dr. O’Reilly continued, “I now fully understand how humans develop as people. Interestingly, our work over the last 6 years has freed clients from the stifling structure and behaviour patterns of others, enabling them to grow and build on what has happened in their families and environments before them.”
Continuing the conversation, Dr. O’Reilly added, “I was obsessed with taking an individual to success not only by understanding the individual but also the effects of everyone else around them, teaching them how to cope and succeed regardless of internal and external factors.”
“The wonderful fact is that no challenge is too great. My team and I can now teach completely illiterate children to read and write in just 4 hours. I have lost count of the number of ‘A’s that have been achieved by students who, just like me, were written-off. We flicked a switch in their heads enabling sustainable success for all.”
“Marie and I create environments where everyone succeeds, whether they’re teams, companies, students or teachers. With our help, sports people have won the ultimate ‘gold’ at World Championships in record time, along with many more sporting titles. Family businesses have gone from bust to making millions of dollars within days. It doesn’t matter what the goal is, it can be achieved fastest using our psychological methods.”
“We have worked with thousands of people both within our custom-built facilities and all around the world. We don’t see dyslexia, ADD, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome, audio processing disorders and so on as barriers because, with us, everyone works in their own individual optimum way. This simply does not happen in regular systems and this is the reason why our results are truly outstanding. We’ve proved our theories by discovering the keys and methods needed for individual success.”
Dr. O’Reilly concluded by saying, “I see endless possibilities for the world with these methods.”
NAOISE O’Reilly can’t read, at least, not fluently and not out loud.
She’s so severely dyslexic that an educational psychologist wrote her off as unsuitable for college when she was 17.
Marie O’Riordan fared even worse. A disaster at school, she failed honours English in her Leaving Certificate.
Yet the duo are now hugely successful entrepreneurs who spend their time turning around businesses, and enhancing the lives of everyone they deal with.
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Thursday April 11th 2013.
Secrets To Success Formula Revealed By Purple Learning Project® Scientist’s Invention Of Periodic Table Of The Development of Results® with The Forever Method®
A world first and major breakthrough in the understanding, attainment and psychology surrounding success has been unveiled today by the people behind the Purple Learning Project® and The Forever Method®.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly Ph.D. and Marie O’Riordan have repeatedly made news headlines internationally for achieving record breaking results both together and individually through their work which spans over 48 years combined.
The Periodic Table of the Development of Results® or Purple Success® is a system for achieving milestones with men and women from any background or age. This equally has been proven to work for everyone from school children to high level corporate business people regardless of the type of person they are or the type of business or education environment they work in.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly says, “the great thing about Purple Success® is that it allows you to approach people in different ways as different people achieve success in different time frames too. Our formula really answers the questions as to why some students or clients appear to achieve success in what we call sonic style while other people have different needs and we view them as Darwins.”
“It’s like science, psychology, personal development and business gurus are all meeting in the same space to create a system for success for everybody,” according to Marie O’Riordan. She added that, “there are of course always universal themes that we recognize immediately for people regardless of their stage in life or the environment they currently find themselves in. I love the breath, scope and freedom our research on the ground, in real life and in real time provides.”
The table is a system which allows Dr. Naoisé and Marie to achieve the same results for everyone while allowing them to completely personalize what they implement. Proof arrived in the form of working with and analyzing hundreds of people across educational projects and five continents in the high pressure business world in the height of the recession.
Clients achieved extraordinary results such as earning $1,335,220.28 million dollars in 17 days after working with Dr. Naoisé and Marie verified by a T.V. Investigative Journalist. Recently, a new start-up business earned $147,362 in less that 7 days after working with these two women verified by Independent Financial Auditors. This was equivalent to over one year of business in just one week.
Dr. O’Reilly is often described as the last resort especially for many students who appear to be struggling who have Asperger’s Syndrome or Dyslexia that she has taken from failing subjects to getting straight A’s and being accepted into College. She currently works with babies aged 18 months to adults up to 72 years of age.
By creating a proper environment people can attain their skills and develop in a way that best suits them through this new table and take people from failure to success in the shortest timeframe possible. Both Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly and Marie O’Riordan are multiple award winners in the areas of business, film, company ability status and third world philanthropy.