12Jan/18Off

Dr Naoise O’Reilly Work and Research Areas

Dr Naoise O'Reilly Work and Research Areas 
9Jan/18Off

Signs Your Life is Out of Balance and What To Do About It?

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How do you feel when your life is out of balance?


What are the signs of your life being out of Balance? Here are 7 key areas to look for tells in your life. They cross all areas of your life from work to relationships. How do you react to interruptions? How do you benchmark how well you are doing in yourself? How well do you eat? What is your personal self-worth? How many people truly ask these questions of themselves?


1: The control tell: The easiest way to think about how you feel is how little it takes to tip the scales. You feel emotional, stressed, overwhelmed all the time. This can lead to an unhealthy need to control yourself or others in a desperate need to readdress the balance.


2: The interruption tell: You have a lack of tolerance and patience. The smallest things push you over the edge in an unreasonable overreaction for the level of the challenge. You can also have a lack of tolerance for noise and interruptions. Do you lose it with people in your work or home environment easily?


3: Looking outside tell: There is a constant feeling of being overwhelmed and not knowing where or how to start tasks. Do you always feel as if there is a task hanging over you? You can find it very hard to know what others expect from you. You find yourself constantly seeking validation from others to see if you are doing well enough. You can find your perfectionism crippling. Unable to start tasks in case they are not done well enough.


4: Fitness and diet tell: You either don't do enough exercise or become obsessed with too much. You control your food and don't have good sleeping patterns. You are always tired and can't get out of bed in the mornings. You wonder "what does sunrise look like" - you never see it! The alarm goes off 10 times in the mornings.


5: The wrong key tell: You feel displaced and opportunities don't seem to arrive or never quite fit to work out. You are always blaming fate. The wrong set of circumstances for you. Besides not being promoted in jobs you can find that you are endlessly looking for a new fit, you never quite settle anywhere. You are constantly upskilling to feel whole. Will the next course fill the void?


6: Relationship tell: You can suddenly withdraw from people and relationships. Ending relationships suddenly without clear thought. Have you stopped talking to your family? Do you seem to have displaced friends from your life recently? Do you just feel disconnected from everyone around you?


7: The searching tell: You are constantly searching to fit in and belong somewhere. Never found anyone that truly gets you. This can lead to an obsession in self-analysis. What's wrong with me? This can become a serial self-help or development search. Do you join many different groups and never stick at any one of them for any length of time?


If these are the tells what are the fixes? How do you counterbalance yourself? There are three simple factors;


1: You need to understand your strengths and weaknesses.


2: You need to find a way to express what it really is you want to achieve in life. Set goals.


3: You need to know how to fulfill your dreams or the steps to make them happen. Try to create a roadmap of realistic steps to these goals for yourself.


Why do the people who come to me crave more balance in their lives? Many people would assume that the aspirations are materialistic. The goals of a new car, a bigger house or to earn more money. It's not that many of these achievements do not happen with greater balance but generally there are 7 key mindsets that people seek.


These are;


1: Happiness is the most important element.


2: Confidence is also a top priority.


3: People strive for self-worth.


4: Respect is huge, both at home and in the workplace.


5: Greater work-life balance. To not always feel tired and jaded.


6: Quality time to spend with the people who matter in their lives and for the other interests in life.


7: Better relationships with partners, children, family and work colleagues.


Everyone that comes to me uses the phrase to me that "they are at crossroads in their life". They want me to siphon their dreams out of them, that have often been forgotten along the way. But most importantly they want a roadmap of how to get to where they want to be, "I now have a way of moving forward to achieve what I am capable of in life and doing what will make me happier". I always say start with steps. No matter how small they are steps in the right direction. Take control in a positive way. I don't ever tell anyone anything that they don't tell me already knew inside themselves, "Dr. O'Reilly has helped to bring together feelings, thoughts, and plans that have been floating around in my head for some time".


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16Oct/17Off

What does Dr Naoisé O’Reilly do?

What does Dr Naoise O'Reilly do? 
Recently I asked a series of people who have worked with me what do I do? Here are some of the answers, including the humorous!
26Feb/17Off

Dr Naoisé O’Reilly Speaking at the ASPIRE (Asperger Syndrome Association of Ireland) conference 2016

14Oct/15Off

Purple Learning Project – What we do in 12 slides

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16Jun/15Off

Purple Integration Programmes® – Methods to improve the lives of People living with Dyspraxia & Dyscalculia.

Since the beginning with The Homework Club we have worked very successfully with people with both of these conditions. But like everything else we have continued to refine and prefect our methods. Always striving to incorporate in the personality factors. We now have a very refined and successful formula to achieve results across the lives of these students, beyond just their academic results.

24May/15Off

Education Experts Share 10 Tips for Dealing with a Difficult Child

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Education Experts Share 10 Tips for Dealing with a Difficult Child

On behalf of Rasmussen College

http://rasmussen.edu/degrees/education/blog/dealing-with-a-difficult-child/

31Mar/15Off

Gifted Children & Creating Balance:

gifted_24-7The first question I asked myself when I went to write this piece was, “what is the definition of a gifted child?” The federal government statutory definition of gifted and talented students in the United States is:

“The term "gifted and talented" when used in respect to students, children, or youth means students, children, or youth who give evidence of high performance capability in areas such as intellectual, creative, artistic, or leadership capacity, or in specific academic fields, and who require services or activities not ordinarily provided by the school in order to fully develop such capabilities."

For me, it is always a child who is bored by school, stands outside of the box, can show talents in one or many areas, seem highly developed and thought out for their age, has an adult sense of humour, can seem highly frustrated, has multiplicity - the ability to take in information in all 4 learning styles, often has a rare personality type and may or may not seem brilliant academically.

The last point is very important. Can a child be gifted if they don’t have perfect literacy? Can literacy issues seriously impair a student to do well on the conventional I.Q. tests? I think the answer to both is yes and these are the students who suffer the most challenges in being gifted.

Can you imagine having all the thought processes and abilities of a gifted child but never being able to show them? It’s massively frustrating.

For me, the challenges with gifted children are not just the repercussions to help with making school more interesting. With a reasonably inspired teacher, good communication and some outside the box curricular activities - all these needs can be met.

The real challenges with gifted children are personality based. The first difficulty a gifted child will have is that they are highly sensitive to everyone else. They see far more from a young age than they can possibly understand. They just don’t get why they don’t meet anyone like them and why sometimes others find them too energetic, intense and deep. They can sense more and know more - and others shy away from them. In the same way that they philosophically and scientifically want to know more about the world and how it works - they also want to know other people on these deep levels.

The ages from 7 to 10 are critical for a number of reasons. If you haven’t got the academic side right - you are in fear of having a child switch off education forever. Boredom is a terribly dangerous mode. It can make or break people in terms of educational fulfilment for life.

10 is the age we become aware that we are different to everyone else and for gifted children they get a sense of this quicker than others. Though they may lack the maturity to fully understand why they don’t want to be different or stick out from the crowd. I often meet gifted students who are simultaneously looking for validation that they are bright while trying to pretend they are too “stupid” to fit in. It can be a really complex set of emotions to go with the slight rejection that they are feelings from others.

We can address the academic needs often with a layered approach. If we can get someone beyond 11 and still interested in school they will more than likely go on to achieve greatness. If we can show them the outside world and introduce them to the ideas of others outside the box we can do the ground work for them being different. They will more than likely be a pioneer too and change the world. They may not meet anyone like them until they are in their 20’s but they can know they exist.

But the real challenge for me is in creating the balance of childhood. Just because you are gifted doesn’t mean you don’t need to be a kid. You need to make mistakes. You need to learn from them. You need to play. You need to match your maturity level with the toys and games that non-gifted children play at these stages too. Too often we lose these aspects for gifted kids and they spend too much time “working” and not enough time playing. It is as important to find yourself in the silliness of childhood as it is to balance the boredom. It’s an important life work balance that we need to learn. Gifted children often have very high expectations of themselves and can be work-a-holics later in life. You have to learn to do non-important silly things too! You have to learn to take breaks and not to be so hard on yourself.

I sometimes feel that parents have to spend so much time battling the system to prove their child is “gifted” that they forget to let them be children.

If you want a balanced child - you have to give them an outlet for the emotional side of them that may be several years behind their “gifted” level.

 

Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly.

 

1Feb/15Off

The Dangers in “Motivating” Professional Sports Stars

The quickest way to injure Professional Sports Stars and see them mounting up red and yellow cards from Referees is to “Motivate” them.

This is why We would never “Motivate” top Athletes in a millions years. Instead, We “Optimize” them for success - safely.

Highly Strung:

Traditional motivational techniques in High Level Sports are compatible to letting go of an energetic spring! It is totally uncontrolled, undirected and unsustainable - leading to totally random results.

You would be hyping up already volatile personality types with the consequences of them either injuring themselves or getting into big trouble with the rules - very quickly.

“Motivating” and “Optimizing” Teams and Individuals is not one and the same. To see the Methods We developed to work with some of the World’s Leading household name Sports Stars see: http://www.theforevermethod.com/methods

Marie O’Riordan & Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly,

Elite Mentors/Psychological Profilers to Olympians/Paralympians/Special Olympians/multiple World Championships Golds Winners/European Champions/Grand Prix Winner/Barclays Premier League Football Clubs, Major League Soccer M.L.S. Club, Sky Bet Football League Championship Club etc. V.I.P. for the World's Biggest Sporting Events including the London 2012 Olympic Games & Glasgow 2014 Commonwealth Games.

   

Introduction

Welcome to the Purple Learning Project.

The aim of the Purple Learning Project Foundation is to create a legacy of the methods which Dr Naoisé O’Reilly has developed since 2009.

The methods in learning and personality theory have been developed while working with people of a variety of ages, backgrounds, and cultures. The methods have been applied to the education, business and sporting environments. The ages are in the spectrum of 4 to 70's. The methods include: Purple Profiling, Purple Processing Scales, The Periodic Table of the Development of Results, Forget Phonics Reading Method, Purple Pre-School Success and so on...

There has always been a clear distinction for Dr Naosié in working with people who currently need help within the system and leaving behind something of integrity for the future generations.

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