9Jan/18Off

Signs Your Life is Out of Balance and What To Do About It?

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How do you feel when your life is out of balance?


What are the signs of your life being out of Balance? Here are 7 key areas to look for tells in your life. They cross all areas of your life from work to relationships. How do you react to interruptions? How do you benchmark how well you are doing in yourself? How well do you eat? What is your personal self-worth? How many people truly ask these questions of themselves?


1: The control tell: The easiest way to think about how you feel is how little it takes to tip the scales. You feel emotional, stressed, overwhelmed all the time. This can lead to an unhealthy need to control yourself or others in a desperate need to readdress the balance.


2: The interruption tell: You have a lack of tolerance and patience. The smallest things push you over the edge in an unreasonable overreaction for the level of the challenge. You can also have a lack of tolerance for noise and interruptions. Do you lose it with people in your work or home environment easily?


3: Looking outside tell: There is a constant feeling of being overwhelmed and not knowing where or how to start tasks. Do you always feel as if there is a task hanging over you? You can find it very hard to know what others expect from you. You find yourself constantly seeking validation from others to see if you are doing well enough. You can find your perfectionism crippling. Unable to start tasks in case they are not done well enough.


4: Fitness and diet tell: You either don't do enough exercise or become obsessed with too much. You control your food and don't have good sleeping patterns. You are always tired and can't get out of bed in the mornings. You wonder "what does sunrise look like" - you never see it! The alarm goes off 10 times in the mornings.


5: The wrong key tell: You feel displaced and opportunities don't seem to arrive or never quite fit to work out. You are always blaming fate. The wrong set of circumstances for you. Besides not being promoted in jobs you can find that you are endlessly looking for a new fit, you never quite settle anywhere. You are constantly upskilling to feel whole. Will the next course fill the void?


6: Relationship tell: You can suddenly withdraw from people and relationships. Ending relationships suddenly without clear thought. Have you stopped talking to your family? Do you seem to have displaced friends from your life recently? Do you just feel disconnected from everyone around you?


7: The searching tell: You are constantly searching to fit in and belong somewhere. Never found anyone that truly gets you. This can lead to an obsession in self-analysis. What's wrong with me? This can become a serial self-help or development search. Do you join many different groups and never stick at any one of them for any length of time?


If these are the tells what are the fixes? How do you counterbalance yourself? There are three simple factors;


1: You need to understand your strengths and weaknesses.


2: You need to find a way to express what it really is you want to achieve in life. Set goals.


3: You need to know how to fulfill your dreams or the steps to make them happen. Try to create a roadmap of realistic steps to these goals for yourself.


Why do the people who come to me crave more balance in their lives? Many people would assume that the aspirations are materialistic. The goals of a new car, a bigger house or to earn more money. It's not that many of these achievements do not happen with greater balance but generally there are 7 key mindsets that people seek.


These are;


1: Happiness is the most important element.


2: Confidence is also a top priority.


3: People strive for self-worth.


4: Respect is huge, both at home and in the workplace.


5: Greater work-life balance. To not always feel tired and jaded.


6: Quality time to spend with the people who matter in their lives and for the other interests in life.


7: Better relationships with partners, children, family and work colleagues.


Everyone that comes to me uses the phrase to me that "they are at crossroads in their life". They want me to siphon their dreams out of them, that have often been forgotten along the way. But most importantly they want a roadmap of how to get to where they want to be, "I now have a way of moving forward to achieve what I am capable of in life and doing what will make me happier". I always say start with steps. No matter how small they are steps in the right direction. Take control in a positive way. I don't ever tell anyone anything that they don't tell me already knew inside themselves, "Dr. O'Reilly has helped to bring together feelings, thoughts, and plans that have been floating around in my head for some time".


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30Mar/16Off

7 Year Journey Dr Naoise O’Reilly

IMG_7003I have always liked the number 7. This time of the year always makes me reflective as it was the first time students flooded into The Homework Club in Blanchardstown in 2009. Many of these first cases turned out to be hugely influential in my own journey.

The first parent to ever ring me seeking help had a teenager who had not attended school for months, having dropped out of the system. He took classes with us for 6 weeks and did so well in his State Exams the school rang his mother with the results wanting to know what had changed. We worked with him for the next 3 years and hence I found myself taking on a huge number of cases with Asperger's Syndrome. I'm now known internationally as an expert in an area I never expected or set out to be.

By the following September, even though I set the school up for second level students, I found myself taking on the transition age before you start big school. By the following January, a year after my craziness to set up my own school with my own teaching methods, the youngest students were now 4.

Within this time, I had been encouraged by people to go for a number of awards. These were important to me personally as the first outside validations of my work.

I guess all along the only judge of my work, research and methods had been the results my students have received. From there I have become a top referral for many organisations. I find it sad that in many cases I am the person who people are sent to when no one else has been able to help them.

Two years after starting the school, I realised I needed to convert all my work, experiences and methods into a formal system. This meant the birth of The Purple Learning Project. I have always felt there is a balance between supporting people currently in the system and making real change for the future.

I remember this odd moment of describing the basic Purple Learning method to someone and they asked, "Who's work is this" and saying, "It's mine." What book could they read it in? The answer was none - my head. It's always been a bit bizarre to be so outside the box. To work in a way that has not existed before. The Homework Club was, for me, about proving all the wacky ideas in my own head.

Along the way in those years, I developed all these ways of working with people with a whole spectrum of conditions including: ADD, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome, Dyslexia, Audio Processing Disorders, Hearing Impairments, Home Schooling, Dyscalculia, Dysgraphia, Confidence, Bullying, Self Harm, Sexuality, Learning Disabilities, Gifted Children, Exam Fears, Child Development, People Development, Team Development, Business Success, Bereavement and so on.

When I started the school I had one main question in my head. Why do no two dyslexics learn the same way? Through working with so many people and conducting interviews, which allowed me to create unique profiles for everyone, I now have the answer to that question 7 years later.

I now have the recorded patterns of how personality and learning styles go together.

I reached the next major crossroads in the school 4 years into the project. The students knew what we did. I collected many of their comments and feedback. It was a magic sense of achievement having created an environment they all loved so much. Hence, the tagline became, "Develop Your Love of Learning." But the parents had no idea in many cases what the project was about. I felt I was missing part of the puzzle. I also felt that many parents had lost involvement in their own children's education.

Confidence Club was born.

I was also itching to take the projects nationally and internationally. Every time I did a radio interview I would be contacted by all these people rurally in Ireland with no support. Confidence Club has been about supporting students in their own homes, with the support and understanding of their parents.

Along the way, the methods have continued to develop in the background. It feels like a back room factory sometimes. The most significant one being in 2013, Periodic Table of the Development of Results. Nicknamed Purple Success. It brought my science and creative brain together. It is the table of the elements each personality needs to succeed in life. Whether it is a 3-year-old I am helping to talk or a 5-year-old to read or a business to grow. It is always just about people and their personalities.

With all the work I have done to date, my key focus in life still remains to take literacy and intelligence out of the same sentence. Because even after all these years, I still remember what the teacher said to me in school at the age of 7.

Dr. Naoisé O'Reilly

21Dec/15Off

2015 A Year in Review – Dr. Naoise O’Reilly

imagesSo, it's that time of year again when we wrap up and reflect on what we have done this year. Reflection is such a critical part in successful development that I encourage everyone we work with to go through the process. I'm always sending 'nagging' type e-mails asking, "so, where are you at now?"

For me, I started the year being congratulated by a series of very influential and hugely successful people internationally. It's impossible to work in a vacuum and this recognition has meant a massive step forwards for me. Especially in little Ireland! It's a sad fact that we are never truly appreciated where we come from. We have beaten our own records on financial success for our Clients this year with an American client making an astronomical amount for an individual in just 48 hours after working with us. But with the Podcast launch, Purple Psychology, it has meant that we are now reaching people in 62 countries internationally. This has also meant that I needed to find a way to work with more employees and hence I created the 4 hour employee system this year. And I said, "no one will listen to the podcast." How wrong could I have been? http://purplepsychology.com/

As always, we have seen a huge mixture of clients this year. From 2 years old upwards. I have helped people to win sporting events, turn their businesses around, get promoted in work, learn to talk, read and write in some of my shortest timescales yet. It's been a year of massive research into empathy creation, speech paths and integration programmes to focus on aspects of Asperger's Syndrome and Dyspraxia/Dyscalculia. My students have expanded across the continents too.

I have also formalised the work I do with Homeschooling (www.homeschooling.ie) and made a separate project for this work. We now support students across the globe and have students in practically every county in Ireland being supported in their homes and in mainstream school. Every year the reach just seems to grow.

I know the high profile client list and the business/sport profiling work I do brings more interest from the media but for me the special moments are still in the videos I get in my inbox of students reading who have never read before, especially when it's only 6 months later and they can read the school play for Christmas. For me my work is still all about others being able to do what I couldn't do at their age or in a way so much easier than what I have had to put in to get where I am now.

Oh, I almost forgot. We also launched an App on the iTunes store this year, the 365Success Productivity App. http://purplepsychology.com/365success-app/

To think Personality Theory Research can have such profound results. I have been told again this week in Washington D.C. that I look at the world differently to everyone else. I still struggle to see what people mean. All I know is that the answers don't seem hard to me.

Merry Christmas 2015 & Happy New Year 2016,

Dr. Naoisé O'Reilly.

16Nov/15Off

How People Achieve Their True Potential with Dr. Naoise O’Reilly of The Forever Method – Marie Grace Berg interviewed me on Today’s Leading Women podcast

Dr.-Naoise-OReily-of-The-Forever-Method-e1447206560380“Success is the joy of seeing my students succeed" -Dr. Naoise O'Reilly

Marie Grace Berg interviewed me on Today’s Leading Women podcast

http://todaysleadingwomen.com/naoise-oreilly/

2Nov/15Off

A Year of Results with Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly

A Year of Results with Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly 
14Oct/15Off

Purple Learning Project – What we do in 12 slides

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18Sep/15Off

Coming soon – 365Success App

365SuccessApp365Success App offers simple Daily Tips for a more balanced life. 365Success is a one year plan over 6 Levels where new Tips are displayed each day. It may be helpful to keep a journal as you work through the Daily Tips. The people behind 365Success are Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly, Dr. Graham Hughes & Marie O’Riordan. Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly & Marie O’Riordan are Academic/Creative Life Hackers who work together with Governments, Royal Families, FORTUNE 500, FORBES ‘Richest People on the Planet’, TIME ‘100 Most Influential People’, Gold World Champions, Olympians & Professional World Footballers.
Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly’s background: Multi-Award Winning Educationalist Awarded Ability Company Status, Personality Theory Researcher, Mentor, Physical Oceanographer, Observational Scientist & Space Satellites Big Data Research Scientist. INFJ. Marie O’Riordan’s background: Mentor, Media & Communications Success Ambassador, International Honorary Award Winning Philanthropist, National T.V. Award Winning Short Filmmaker, Third World Documentaries Maker, Journalist & Broadcaster. INFJ. Dr. Graham Hughes 365Success App Developer is a Post Doctoral Researcher in the Laboratory of Molecular Evolution & Mammalian Phylogenetics at University College Dublin U.C.D. Dr. Graham Hughes has been a key member of Dr. Naoisé O’Reilly’s Educational Team since 2010.
21Jul/15Off

Personalized Business for Success

downloadWhy people run away from personalization in business when that’s what they need for success. Why are people conditioned to think one size fits all?

One of the most amazing aspects of engaging with massive Multinationals and household name Companies in the last few years is there fear of personalizing business. They are always looking for a generic system. A system that can just be pumped in regardless of people. It doesn’t seem to matter if the people are their clients, their customers or their employees. They must all be able to go into a box.

I won’t lie this has been a massive stumbling block for two women who are very personal in nature and are always seeking the depth. We have a natural affinity to put ourselves in other peoples shoes and see the world from their perspective. Hence, we will always tailor every communication, negotiation, deal, brand, theme and system to match the people we are dealing with. This is completely alien to large Companies. Why can’t you just have something automated and impersonal for me to engage with? Because it doesn’t get results. That’s it - plain and simple. If you want our kind of successful results you are going to need to create a tailored system. The funny part is that this is not more work. Because once you realize what the system is and how to tweak it to match your specific needs you will close the deal, sell the product and be on an upward trajectory all round in record time. You will not waste 6 months trying to get someone over the line. You will not employ a person for years and not get the best out of them. They won’t leave you as soon as you have spent years training them. You won’t waste tens of millions of dollars on branding that doesn’t work. The list is endless. We never even write any response to someone without first profiling them!

For me, I always go back to why do these patterns of thinking exist? In a nutshell - school. It’s the ultimate one size fits all model in the World. From very young ages we start in a system where we are expected to fit in with everyone else’s ideas and ways of working. Although everyone agrees this doesn’t work it used to take generations to change. Not any more. A little like the business models, it also seems an excessive amount of work to make changes. When I know in fact it is a few very small tweaks and an openness to see people for people that make such huge differences.

Who will become personalized first business or education? We have personalized both with massive successes in both. Some success is purely measured by money so maybe these will be the ones to change more rapidly even though a person’s overall feeling of success matters so much more.

Dr. Naoisé O'Reilly.

20Jul/15Off

Website for Purple Success

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16Jun/15Off

Purple Speech Paths® – New method to help with the development of speech in toddlers

Over the last few months I have been working hard to develop and refine methods to help with speech difficulties from the ages of 18 months upwards. It has become obvious to me that this is a difficulty that is far more widespread that recognized and leads to a whole array of challenges behaviorally. Without communication we can often exhibit anger issues, frustration, tantrums, lack of confidence and don't form proper social bonds within and outside of the family.

Introduction

Welcome to the Purple Learning Project.

The aim of the Purple Learning Project Foundation is to create a legacy of the methods which Dr Naoisé O’Reilly has developed since 2009.

The methods in learning and personality theory have been developed while working with people of a variety of ages, backgrounds, and cultures. The methods have been applied to the education, business and sporting environments. The ages are in the spectrum of 4 to 70's. The methods include: Purple Profiling, Purple Processing Scales, The Periodic Table of the Development of Results, Forget Phonics Reading Method, Purple Pre-School Success and so on...

There has always been a clear distinction for Dr Naosié in working with people who currently need help within the system and leaving behind something of integrity for the future generations.

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